Awkward Moments for Non-Believers

I’ve told you before about my daughter’s best friend and her very religious mother and the incident that happened at a sleepover. Well the girls ended up on the same soccer team this year and the mother and I had a chat at the end-of-season party. She asked me directly what faith my husband and I are, and I told her directly that we do not believe in gods. This surprised her, and she asked what led me to decide I no longer believe. She knows a bit of my history of growing up Southern Baptist, so this was shocking to her.

I explained my story of finding the truth. A few moments later, our girls ran up to us exclaiming that my daughter had gotten a bump on the head and her friend had prayed for her, resulting in my daughter’s head feeling better. I held my tongue, though we’ve explained to our daughter before that praying does not help anything. The mother then said, “[Daughter], why don’t you pray for [my daughter]’s Mom?”

Ok, no. What am I supposed to say to that? “No, little girl, don’t pray for me.” This happened right in front of my child. I chose to keep quiet, and then later explained to my child that mommy and daddy don’t believe in praying to solve problems. It was awkward, embarrassing, and uncalled for.

This is what we’re up against. *sigh*

4 Thoughts on “Awkward Moments for Non-Believers

  1. Yikes. That’s incredibly rude. You didn’t instruct your child to actively intervene in her friend’s belief system. That makes me mad.

    My daughter brought her “One World Many Beliefs” book to preschool today. Hopefully no one gets too insulted…

  2. Yes, it was very frustrating. And now I’m nervous about letting my daughter go to their house. If I find out they’re preaching to her, that will be the end of this. It’s just not ok to tell a child they’re going to hell if they don’t believe in an invisible man in the sky.

    Hope it goes well for your daughter today! I’m going to have a look at that book right now. 🙂

  3. My reply to these moments are any combination of the following, depending on my mood.
    * That’s cute
    * Oh put your crystals and magic dust away, I’ll be fine
    * I love your sense of humor, we have to hang out more
    * Oh please don’t. I don’t want to attract the attention of evil gods.

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