about me

Who am I?

*I think it’s important to note that I am not affiliated with the book, Raising Freethinkers, by Dale McGowan, et. al. However, the book is excellent and you should buy it right now! You should also check out Parenting Beyond Belief, which is excellent reading as well.

NOTE: I have disabled my contact form on this page due to receiving death threats. I have to say, for those of you lecturing me in the comments about my acceptance and tolerance of religion…I have never once made any threat to any person of any religion (or lack thereof) for any reason. This is the difference between your beliefs and my lack of belief.

I’m a 36-year-old mom of two girls, living in conservative Oklahoma. For the past 10 years I have slowly realized that the things I “knew” to be true about the world were full of holes. The biblical passages I’d memorized as a kid raised more questions than the bible itself could answer. After almost 5 years of research, analyzing, and searching in the depths of my mind, I came to the conclusion that I probably don’t believe in a god. I say probably because none of us can never know for sure. I like to say I’m an agnostic with strong atheistic tendencies. Actually, I usually call myself a Humanist because “atheist” has such negative connotations.

Regardless of my label, I believe in a rational, humanistic approach to life. I no longer fear death (and therefore the possibility of going to hell) and now live my life in the present. I do not take people for granted, and follow the principle of doing what makes you happy as long as it doesn’t prevent others from doing what makes them happy. In short, I’m a freethinker.

I also believe in raising my children to decide for themselves what they want to believe about the world. I am raising them to be curious about the world around them and to explore and learn all they can. I am teaching them to ask questions and not just take things at face value. I had it easy as a kid. Religious excuses for life events were part of my nature, but my kids are growing up differently, and, being in conservative Oklahoma, face adversity for being freethinkers.

There are several books out there relating to parenting without religion, and a handful of blogs visible on Google search, which I’m currently reading and using to build my arsenal of answers for my children. I intend for Raising Freethinkers to be a resource and a place of encouragement (with a dash of humor and sarcasm) for freethinking parents who want to raise well-rounded, educated, and open-minded children without religion.

Want to know more about me? No problem.

I’m a crappy proofreader. I love music. I play guitar. My girls do not wear hair bows as large as their heads. I’m a marketing professional, a coder, a tech geek, and a graphic designer. I can’t stand the mall. I would love to be a politician and may go for it someday. I graduated from OU in 20112 – a little late in life, I know, but that’s the way things have gone for me. My family did not value education and therefore did not stress the importance of going to college. I had to figure that out for myself. I’m a little bitchy sometimes, but only because my eyes have been opened to all the stupidity and conformity that resides in the world. I’m working on that, though. 

So what makes me an expert? I’m not.

And, if you’re here for expert advice, you’re in the wrong place. I just like to think that there are other parents out there who need to know they aren’t alone. There are other moms and dads going through the same trials and facing the same questions. I hope I can help.

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6 Thoughts on “about me

  1. Pingback: Are you a freethinking parent? | Raising Freethinkers

  2. Jennifer on April 14, 2015 at 3:01 pm said:

    Hi there .. I just came across your blog in my search for non-religious homemaking and parenting sites. Oh my .. I think you must be in my head reading my mind and posting about some of my own experiences!!! If you still had your contact information posted, I would send you a message to let you know how appreciated your posts are. I have only read through your most recent ones so far, but every single one has resonated with me, either opinions and feelings I agree with or experiences very similar to my own (I even grew up in Oklahoma .. now in Texas). I have slowly over the last year come to realize that I am a non-believer and that I really dislike and distrust most organized religions. I have also made the conscious decision to not propagate the fairy-tale absurdity that is Christianity to my children. We were already pretty much raising them as agnostics and doing our best to teach them love and acceptance, but now it is more intentional. In any case, I just wanted to let you know that I would love to see more posts from you. They are very refreshing and it is very encouraging to know that others feel the same way I (and my husband) do and are raising their children with the same world view. Thank you for sharing!!

  3. David Seidman on April 21, 2015 at 10:56 pm said:

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  4. Nimu on May 26, 2015 at 3:02 am said:

    Hi there,
    A friend directed me to your blog. I am a40 year old single mother to a nearly 4 year old girl. I live in Kenya which is ahighly religious country and it seems every time I blink someone is shoving religion down her throat. She is an intelligent child. I worry she’ll be ‘brainwashed’ as I look on.

    So the long and short of it is I need help in what I should say to her as a child about being non believers.
    I hope this all makes sense and you can give me advise.
    Asante (Thank you)

  5. I’m in OK, too. NE quadrant for me. Red as red can be. What area are you? Looking forward to reading more.

  6. Hey! Just came across your blog. After grappling over whether I should raise my kids Jewish (husband is Jewish but atheist, I am a God believer but don’t practice the Christianity I was raised with), I came across your blog. THANK YOU! It makes so much sense in this moment that I CAN DO THIS. Until today, I felt fearful, e.g., “what will happen if I raise my kids without religion?” This blog and other sources are helping me to realize that my kids won’t end up hateful/strung out on heroin/other bad outcome if we aren’t religious (anything can happen, of course, but a lack of religion won’t cause this).

    I am a mom of 2 preschoolers in New England, a journalist (I write for CafeMom and other blogs) and musician/guitar teacher. My blog is Rockmommy

    Would love to connect sometime, but in the meantime, please keep blogging about your experience.

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